Even in the summer heat, a Cedar Creek wedding doesn’t disappoint. And it’s the perfect place for a bright, summer wedding! Chandra and Josh chose to have their ceremony on the lawn, with the most scenic views of Missouri’s rolling hills. Combine that with the dreamy, summer light, and their ceremony was magical. But, really, their day […]
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I believe in second chances. And real, lasting love. Combine that with the most perfect intimate Cedar Lake Cellars wedding, and you’ve got Angie and Tony’s love story. What a magical day. Small. Intimate. Simple. But oh, so filled with love. Angie and Tony are the perfect match, and it was such a joy watching […]
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Kate and Bailey’s Hermann Hill summer wedding was straight out of a Nicholas Sparks novel. Beginning at a small stone church in the country and ending with sunset pictures on the bluffs of the Missouri river. These middle school sweethearts had the perfect day. Kate met Bailey at 4-H camp, and couldn’t stop talking about […]
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What do you get when a Kate Spade, corgi loving girl, falls in love with a hunting, fishing, country boy? A Kate Spade inspired, Sunflower Hill Farm wedding. Sunflower Hill Farm is the perfect blend of class in the country. High end finishes and attention to detail, but out of the hustle and bustle of […]
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Rachel and Zach are living proof that long distance relationships can work. And, not just work, but thrive. But, what happens when you’re doing the long distance thing, and jobs change, all while planning a wedding? St. Louis becomes your destination wedding location! And a Windows on Washington wedding becomes the perfect place to bring […]
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There are weddings. And then there are airplane hangar weddings. I’ll be the first to admit, that when Megan told me her reception would be in an airplane hangar, I had no idea what to expect. I knew it would be awesome, and I was beyond excited about it, but that was about it! And […]
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I am a BIG believer in date night. Date nights start out as a way for two people to get to know each other and see if they have a connection. That feeling you get when a guy you like asks you out, is exciting! And then, if the date goes well, there’s the feeling of anticipation, and waiting for the next date. When you start to have lots of date nights with the same person, maybe things are getting a little more serious. When things get a little more serious, your entire relationship becomes date nights, and day dates, and stay at home dates. Any excuse to be together is a date. And the “asking out” part isn’t necessary anymore. Until he asks you to marry him. You say yes! And you live in engaged land for a while, planning a wedding, and your life together. Then, before you know it, you’re married!
And just like that, you made it! Phew! You survived the dating game. Which we all know can be brutal. But, in reality, you’ve really just entered into a new game. That marriage game. And the marriage game has higher stakes.
Which brings us back to date night, where you fell in love in the first place.
There are a lot of things that go into creating and sustaining a healthy marriage. But I would venture to say that continuing to date each other should be at the top of the list. I mean, that’s where it all started! It just makes sense!
Not in a relationship? Date.
In a relationship? Date.
Married for a year? Date.
Married for 20 years? Date.
Need a couple ideas? I’ve got your back!
I know what you’re thinking…dinner and a movie is about as basic as it gets when it comes to a date night. But that’s what makes it so great! Dating doesn’t need to be complicated, or over the top, or expensive, or Nicholas-Sparks-romantic all the time. No one can maintain that level of intensity forever. Don’t get me wrong, something super special, or over the top, or oozing romance is great every now and then, but it’s not sustainable or realistic.
Go to your favorite restaurant, or try a new one, or cook dinner together, or get take out. It doesn’t matter what the dinner is, just do it together, and intentionally. Get dressed up, wash your car, make an effort. Talk to each other. Listen to each other. Be present.
See a movie. Go to a movie theater, or rent a movie, or watch an oldie. Do it together. Hold hands, snuggle on the couch, share popcorn, enjoy the simplicity.
Again, this might sound basic, or boring. But when was the last time you actually went out for breakfast? If you’re anything like me, it was probably the last time you were on vacation. Not in normal life! Breakfast so easily gets overlooked or rushed through. Especially as an opportunity for a date! Try making the time for a morning together. Take it slow. Enjoy the time together, and take a break from whatever responsibilities you each have. I think you might be surprised just how much you enjoy yourselves!
I know! Sounds so junior high, right?! But I mean, why not? Hold hands and walk around the stores, and the food court. Sample the Chinese food, buy a soft pretzel. Try on designer sunglasses, or even better, designer jeans. Go to that store he loves, with him. And don’t complain. Hang out on a bench and people watch. Buy something, don’t buy something. It doesn’t really matter. Just be together.
Date each other. Whether you’re just starting your love story, or years and years into it. Dating never stops being important. Make it a priority, be intentional in whatever you do, and keep your expectations simple. You chose each other! Which probably means you like spending time together! So, do it!